Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Parenting Scares

I don't know about you but the one major thing that scares me most about parenting is how we (my hubby and I) are going to raise our children. I'm always thinking, "What if we do something wrong? What if we forget something? What if they grow up to be brats?"  I want them to be loving, treat others how you want to be treated, social butterflies. I know there will be times when they throw a tantrum at the store because they don't get a toy they want & it will happen more than once. I'm hoping that when those times come, I will know what to do and what to say. 

My parents were awesome and raised my sister and I perfectly. They were so loving and showed us that every. single. day. But also knew when to be firm and get their point across. I remember when I was in school and would see someone sitting by themselves at lunch, I would ask them to come sit with me and my friends because I felt awful that they didn't have someone to talk to. I hope Keigan does the same. I hope she sticks up for herself and others when she sees someone being bullied. I want her to have a big and open heart and never judge anyone. I want her to be a free spirit and be the best friend anyone could have. I want her to always be open and try new things. And I hope Dave and I will be able to teach her all of that. 


I have been thinking a lot about this lately. I don't know if it's because she is getting older and we can start teaching her between right and wrong or if it's because I want to be prepared and have a plan for when that time comes when she does throw a fit in the store. Either way, it's making me nervous. I hope it comes naturally and we will just know what to do when that time comes. Parenting has such a big role on who your children grow up to be and how they develop through the years. I don't want to make a mistake. I want to be the best parent I can be. I want Keigan to be proud to call us her parents. 


 Anyone else feeling this way?! Are there any books I can read up on that have good parenting strategies and tips? 


& I will leave you with this adorable little bumblebee! :) 
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12 comments:

  1. I think everyone, as new parents, are always concerned and thinking in the back of their minds about how they want their children to be raised and turn out. Also, as a parent, you worry about failing and not doing what you are supposed to in order to teach them your values. I think it's just "over-thinking" mostly. You will be a great mentor and teacher, as well as, parent. Don't worry. Don't sweat the small stuff, you will do your best and all you can hope for is that she turns out as wonderful as you did. Heck, you were taught and raised by the best?! Right? You had plenty of guidance it sounds like growing up and you should have no problem instilling that into your little sweet cheeks. It's hard, but try to relax and just enjoy this time you have now, it won't be like this for long little mama!

    I thoroughly enjoyed this post, because I am guilty of being a worry-wart myself :)

    You're doing great mama!

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    1. I'm sure I'm over-thinking" this but has been in my mind lately! I know I have an awesome support system so if I need help they will be there! I just want to be an awesome mom ;)

      Thanks Momma! You are one heck of a mom yourself!!! Little Jax is one lucky guy!

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  2. Love this! I've been talking to my husband about our parenting values a lot lately. I was a lot like you, I also befriended the new kid, or asked the girl sitting alone to join our lunch table and I hope Beckett and any other child we have grow to be just as kind and compassionate. You are doing a great job momma, children learn by what their parents do, not what they say, so it sounds like Keigan has an amazing role model :)

    Loving Keigans bumble bee jammies!

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    1. Thanks Molly!!! That helped me think I'll be okay! ;) Why can't we live closer so that we can have play dates?!

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  3. I dont know what happened but I wrote this super long post and it didnt go through. Ugh. :(

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  4. I love this post. It is very real and heart felt. I think when we become parents we immediately get worries, and fears, and concerns about every little thing regarding our little ones. But I also think that just having those fears and concerns and wanting nothing but the best for our babies means that we are doing a good job. That we love. We care. We are the being the best parent and role model for them. If all we do is teach, care for, and love our babies they will grow up to know that is what a good example looks like and they will be the same. I always see these commercials or tv shows with a kid sitting alone, or not playing sports because no one picked him, or girls being made fun of. And it kills me inside. I was in jr high I remember those mean kids. I would just die if that happened to Noah or worse if he was that mean kid. We can only do what we think is best for our babies and if they have good examples being shown around them all the time they will learn by mimicking that. Your little girl is loved and cared for so much by you and your husband she will be just fine and grow up to be an amazing little girl.

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    1. Awe Tessa, I loved everything you said! It was so true! Thanks for making me feel like I'm doing my job right :) I love my fellow mommy bloggers! ;)

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  5. You and I are very much alike, as I used to be the same way at school. I hated seeing people being alone or mistreated. I touched on this exact topic in my liebster award post. It is scary, but all we can do is lead by example. I think you are going to do a phenomenal job momma!

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    1. I remember reading about it in your post and my mind hasnt stopped thinking about it since!! I know, I'm always going to do my best by showing her what's right and wrong! I just want to be the best mom I can be ;)

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  6. No worries sis, I'm sure Keigs will be just as sweet as us :) hahah you and Dave are natural amazing parents! It will come to you when the time is right :))<3 love you guys!

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  7. I know exactly what you mean - it is HARD work being parents. And it's not the sleepless nights or tending to the basic needs [feeding, bathing etc.] parts of being a parent - it's the stuff you can't even really put into words. Its the worries about how you're shaping this tiny human - am I saying the right things, is she getting the right amount and types of stimulation she needs for development, am I feeding her the right things, is she picking up on my irritableness, can she tell if me and hubs are disagreeing, will she remember how I'm acting and how will all these things effect her, etc. etc. etc. Yikes! It's just alot and very overwhelming. But at the end of the day, we just have to remind ourselves that we are doing the best we possibly can [I know this is SO hard]. I would bet a million bucks that little keigan is the coolest little girl and is getting everything she needs now to be a great human being in the future. :)

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    1. It is hard work!! Those were everything I was thinking too!! Thank you for everything, I truly appreciate it! We are great moms, what was I thinking and so worried about?! ;)

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